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I’ve been trying to be the best parent I can be. Since I found out I was pregnant with my first, I knew I wanted to be the best mom. I knew I wanted to have a good relationship with my children.
Over the years, things haven’t gone just as planned. I have wavered on the promise I made to myself. I haven’t always been the best mom. My years of nursing school really pulled me in the opposite direction of my then, 1-year-old. I always tried my best though and I feel comfortable with that.
Now, I have three kids and I think I’ve figured some things out over the years. Here is some of the best advice for moms that I can give.
It’s OK To Say No!
Sometimes, I still struggle with this. I feel like I say no a lot and so maybe I should say yes more. My husband begs to differ. He thinks I need to say no more. According to him, my children do whatever they want. This may or may not be the case.🤣
Also, if you mean No then stick to it. Don’t succumb to the constant begging. No means no people. Kids need to understand that. Say no, don’t be afraid of it, stick to it, and love it yo!
Spend One On One Time
I learned that you can’t treat each child the same way. They have different needs and desires. This is probably the best advice for moms out there. I didn’t always know this until I figured some things out over the years. Kids are different, man!
I have one girl and two boys. Last week, I took my daughter to the I Love Lucy show at the theater. I knew my boys wouldn’t have really enjoyed that so they didn’t go. My daughter and I had a blast though. We both are Lucy fans so this was a perfect one on one bonding experience for us.
My boys enjoy playing outside or playing video games. I can take them to a splash pad or pool for bonding time. Sometimes, we can play video games together too. I’m not very good at them but it’s something that’s fun to do together and they appreciate my effort.
Get to know what each child likes and put the effort in to spend quality time with them.
Don’t Compare Your Kids
I mean, you should know this already, right? Don’t compare them in any way and please don’t do it in front of them if you have to compare. They are listening to you and can understand.
If they know you’re comparing them, this could definitely cause some sibling rivalry and let me tell you, this is no Bueno!
I have some comparisons in my head about my kids but I can’t go around blabbing it to them. My daughter is the most responsible and I think she already knows it. My middle child is the complete opposite and my youngest is, you know, young!
They each have their strengths and it’s a good idea to let them each know of their strengths but not weaknesses. This is some of the best advice for moms out there.
Be A Good Example
I can learn from this one at times. The things I say and do can sometimes contradict. If my kids are yelling at each other and I yell at them to stop yelling, that’s kind of hypocritical of me.
I’m working on this, trust me. What we say and what we do need to match or your kids will have no idea what’s up.
Me putting this out there is a good thing so I can hold myself accountable for what I say and do.
If I want my children to be more loving toward one another then I should be a more loving person all around so they can learn from me. Some days, I’m not feeling so loving especially when I’ve had a rough night and am tired during the day.
Take Time For You
During the day, I’m so busy being a taxi, chef, entertainer, cleaning lady, etc that I forget about my own needs. By the end of the day, I’m so spent and have nothing left in me.
We need to take the time for ourselves to relax or do something nice and we won’t be so stressed out doing our mom job during the day.
The occasional pedicure would do wonders or even a lunch date with a friend. Sometimes, I like to go to Target by myself and this is seriously one of the best things I do on my own that helps me unwind.
Go With Your Instinct
If you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t. The best advice for moms is to go with your instinct. Nobody knows your child better than you do.
Maybe another mom has a specific routine for their child but it won’t work out for your kid. Don’t feel bad about it. You know your kid and what works best. Take the other moms advice and move on. You don’t have to implement it.
If your child is begging you to go have a sleepover with another friend but you don’t feel right about it, just don’t do it. Talk to your kid and let them know why you don’t feel right about it. They might be angry at first but they will understand eventually.
I don’t let my kids have sleepovers and that’s because when I was younger and I had sleepovers, I knew what went on and it was never great. So, just to keep my kids safe, we won’t be doing sleepovers anytime soon.
They haven’t ever had sleepovers with friends so they don’t even know the difference and don’t really care.
You’re capable of being the best mom out there and that’s the best advice for moms who are struggling to know their worth.
I really hope you enjoyed this article on the best advice for moms. If you have any input for me, I would love to read them in the comments.