What’s all this talk about self-care? What even is it? I have no time for self-care. I’m a busy lady.
Between being a taxi driver for my kids, cooking, cleaning, laundry, extracurricular activities, how do I fit in self-care?
To be honest, I don’t really.
There is the occasional pedicure or night out away but that’s about it.
Self-care for most moms consists of hiding in the closet to enjoy some red vines alone.
I know for me, it’s going to the bathroom without being bombarded by children asking me for this or that. For the love, go ask your dad!
Self-care can mean different things for different people. It’s what’s important to you and your sanity.
Here’s what Victoria from This Glitter Covered Mess has to say about self-care.
Why self-care isn’t just getting a massage
It’s been a rough week. Kids are driving you crazy and you’re stressed to the max. Then your single friend or cousin that has no children says to you, “You have to take care of yourself.” or there’s the “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” Well, thanks, I didn’t know that! I had no idea that I couldn’t run on an empty tank or that I needed a moment to myself. I’ll be sure to take your commentary on my life into consideration. Sigh. I’m sorry friend, I know you mean well. I know your comment is not ill-intended. But honestly, if I could get a moment to myself I would do it. In fact, I’ve been working on it. I really have!
I signed up for a massage membership, and I’ve been going every month. This membership is already a stretch on our budget, but I need self-care, right? So, I found a way to make it work in our budget, and there I go every month to get rubbed by some stranger. Meanwhile, my already tired husband is at home trying to manage our very active children. I am so grateful that he grants me these moments to myself. My husband being a very hands-on and active dad is truly a blessing. So why am I stressing about what’s going on at home when I should be relaxing during my massage? Well, I’m stressing because I’m a control freak. I am a SAHM, so all things kids is my realm. Of course, my husband is more than capable of watching his own children for a few hours. What’s more, he’s happy to do it! So why can’t I enjoy my massage?!
I think I finally figured it out. I realized that self-care is more than just getting a massage. For me, self-care is having quiet time. It’s having a neat and orderly house. Because honestly if my house is a wreck, I feel like I’m drowning. Self-care is having a schedule that we follow. I am a planner, and thus, I do not do well without a schedule. I guess what I’m trying to say is that we always hear how self-care is so important. Go get your nails done, go get a haircut, go get a massage. Yadda yadda yadda. Well, what if my self-care is having a sink without dishes in it? I’ll get my nails done when I can, but right now, my MIND needs to do the dishes so I can sleep at night.
Victoria has her own version of what self-care means. To her, its having an orderly house or having the sink empty at night.
These specific things are important to us moms who don’t have all the time in the world to go out and get our hair done or nails done. I feel like self-care is about our sanity. We just need to do those little things that help us to sleep at night. Ya know?
Sometimes, I like to disappear in my room when nobody notices and just lay down in peace. This is self-care in my opinion. My husband always knows where to look for me when I’ve disappeared for a while.
What are some things you like to do for self-care? Let me know down in the comments.